Hi TILB,

I've been in this relationship and all has been exceptionally beautiful but for my mother-in-law to be. She has this habit of asking me to borrow her money even though she knows I am not working yet and then tell me not to tell her son that its a deal between me and her.
This issue is bothering me and I don't know how to stop it. She is a civil servant just like my parents and the two families kind of know each other but not close.

Sometimes 2013 she called my mum to borrow her a certain amount, when my mum told me I immediately told her not to because it's a very bad and shameless attitude. Mum felt doing it will be a good thing.

After all said she didn't return the money up till date and never called to talk about it. I really felt bad because my mum kept on telling me everyday that she is shameless. I wanted to tell my fiance but I know he will feel so bad.

Last year she called me again that I need to borrow her a certain amount and her son should not know but I told her I don't have. This morning again she called me that she needs to travel urgently and needs money, she said she can't tell her son because he sent money not quite long and I should not tell him. I just told her immediately that I don't have because I am not working and she said "no problem".

I don't know if I should call my fiance's attention to this. it is a very bad habit and to me it should not be heard of sef, but I know he will feel so bad and confront her.

What should I do? She is so nice except for this money ish

Please what do I do?